10 Phrases That Undermine Your Confidence

My trick? Before you say something, ask yourself: Can you imagine a CEO saying this? If the answer is no, then you shouldn’t either.

Here are 10 phrases that make you sound less confident—and suggestions for what to say instead:

1. “I’m no expert, but…”

If you start a sentence this way, you've already discredited yourself before you’ve made your point. If you’re speaking on something, you likely have insight—so own it.

✅ Try instead: “Based on my experience…” or “Here’s what I’ve found…”

2. “I don’t want to take too much of your time…”

This phrase suggests that what you’re about to say isn’t worth listening to and makes you seem hesitant. Instead, be direct and assertive in your message.

✅ Try instead: “I’ll keep this brief—here’s what I need…”

3. “I would like to ask a question…”

You don’t need to announce that you're going to ask a question—just do it. This unnecessary preamble weakens your presence.

✅ Try instead: “Can you clarify…” or “What’s the best approach for…”

4. “Sorry to bother you, but…”

Leading with an apology puts you in a weaker position. If you need something, ask for it without the guilt.

✅ Try instead: “Do you have a moment? Can we discuss…”

5. “I just think that…”

The word just minimizes your statement and makes it seem less important. Remove it, and your point becomes stronger.

✅ Try instead: “I think that…”

6. “Does that make sense?”

This phrase suggests that you don’t trust your ability to communicate clearly. Instead, assume you’ve been understood and invite discussion.

✅ Try instead: “Let me know if you have any questions.”

7. “We could maybe try…”

The word “maybe” makes you sound unsure. If you have a suggestion, state it confidently.

✅ Try instead: “I recommend we try…” or “Let’s go with…”

8. “This might be a stupid question, but…”

Never undermine yourself before asking a question. All questions are valid, and phrasing it this way makes you seem insecure. Plus, someone might appreciate your inquiry. If you have a question, chances are someone else has it too.

✅ Try instead: “I’d like to clarify something…” or “Can you help me understand…”

9. “I could be wrong, but…”

This phrase makes people doubt what you’re about to say. If you’re unsure, it’s better to ask directly.

✅ Try instead: “I believe X is correct, but let’s confirm.”

10. The Filler Word “Um”

This isn’t a phrase, but rather a filler word that downplays your message. Some people use it to avoid interruptions or show they’re thinking. In reality, a simple pause is more polished and confident.

The Impact of Communication on Confidence

Confidence isn’t just about what you know—it’s about how you communicate. The way you speak shapes how others perceive you. If you constantly undermine yourself with hesitant language, people will assume you’re unsure, even if you know exactly what you’re doing.

A Challenge for You

Ready to stop second-guessing yourself? It starts with changing the way you talk. Try removing these phrases for a week and observe how your interactions change. You may be surprised at how much more credible and self-assured you sound—just by making a few small tweaks.

Final Thoughts

Communication is powerful. By eliminating these phrases, you can enhance your image and command respect. The way you express yourself can greatly influence the way others view your confidence and credibility. Embrace the change, and you'll notice a positive shift in how you are perceived.

So, are you prepared to take on the challenge? It’s time to elevate your communication style and make a lasting impression!